Monday, October 19, 2009

Support Group and Some Random thoughts!

Tonight was support group at the hospital where I had surgery. I did not know what to, off I went thinking that there would be maybe 10-15 people there.....oh no....there were about 50 people!

It is run by the psychologist and nurse manager at JFK bariatric (my surgeon's office). It was really good.....there were people there from pre-surgery to 2 years post-op and most of the time was an open forum!

One girl (about 24) was talking about the negative comments some of her "friends" have made about her taking the easy way out....she said she no longer has them as friends. She was upset and said that she is 1000 miles away from home and going through this alone while at college....this really made me think about all of the support that I have had!

My best friends call everyday to check on me and my DH has been great! Everyone (although not many) at work has been so supportive and I have not heard one negative comment recently!

We all know how the gossip mill works so I am sure there has been some talk, but I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT!

Another lady was talking about how she was banded 10 months ago and has only lost a few pounds, but she can barely eat...blah, blah, blah.....a few minutes later she was saying how she eats with a tiny spoon and that eats lots of deserts....ok, maybe thats a part of the reason you have not lost....just a thought!!

Leaving for NC in 3 days!! Pretty excited and pretty ok with what I am eating! I think I am losing, but don't record my weight everyday. I am trying for once a week!

Good news is that someone at work noticed today! They did not know that I had surgery and they said..."you look like you are losing weight...are you ok??"
Since when did being fat = being ok?? Ha...they were trying to be nice so I forgive them!!

Oh, went to see Where The Wild Things Are and I was highly dissappointed! It was nothing like the book....although, I was not sure how you can turn a 7 sentence book into a 2 hour movie, but they tried (at least they think they did).


I am going back to finish my MASTERS DEGREE!! GOOOO MEEEEE!!!
I am starting back in January at Florida State University (Sorry Kristin....GO GATORS!! :) XOXOXO)

This is what my degree will be in:

Instructional Systems (major in Performance Improvement and Human Resource Development)Master of Science!! MY boss said today "with a title like that it better be a BIG diploma"........I agree!!

So, there are all the happenings in my life in a nutshell!!

XOXOXO and Welcome to all of my new followers!! I love you guys and your blogs!!


Roo said...

Pookie, I have been disappointed in some of the negative reactions I have had, and now don't tell anybody unless I feel comfortable enough that there won't be upset me so much in the beginning....and I don't feel like I need to defend the band, that it is not the easy way out!
It's great to have that support system. I don't have it in Dubai (apart from blogging) and my family and friends are a 15 hour flight away! It's important to have are doing fab!

Robyn said...

Last week I went to a support group and found it less than helpful, but it was interesting hearing other's stories. Hopefully the dessert lady will figure it out...what a shame to not use the band as a tool. Congrats on going back to school!

Gen said...

Good for you getting your Master's Degree! That is awesome.

I am of the Do Not Tell camp, so I have not had to deal with anyone's reactions. So glad I went this route, it was the right one for me.

Keep up the good work!

Brooke said...

Wow- so happy for you.

For some reason, your decision to get your MA really struck home for me.

I am feeling really stuck right now professionally and a part of me wants to just go back to school and start fresh. But I have a mortgage and we want to have a child soon so the timing is bad.

Were you considering going back to shcool before the surgery, or was the need to move forward brought on or reinforced by all the positive changes since surgery? Just curious.

Sounds like you're doing great. Love catching up with you via the blog :-)

pookie said...

You know Brook....I was and am feeling stuck professionally decision just seemed to come at a time where I am making so many positive changes in my life...I have always felt compelled to do this and now I just realized that it is time!!
I also want to have a child within a couple of years, but I will never be the stay at home type (I truly respect those that can and do) I am just a career person.
It is just something that I know I have to do along with my weight loss!!
I think I am going to be pretty damn unstoppable.....hahahah!!

Brooke said...

I'm glad you're taking the plunge!

I'm 32 now and I wish I had started back up a couple of years ago.

Hmmm I don't know if I could be a SAHM, either. Up here I get a years mat leave aid and I want that, but I don't think we could afford for me to stay at home and I don't know that it would be good for me!